To All Of My Overachieving Friends

As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, one time, I had a friend tell me that I was an ‘overachiever’.

My immediate thought was, “Isn’t that the point?” What am I supposed to do? Hope that it happens? Anything that I want, I work hard to make it happen — isn’t that the way it goes?

Like, really? There’s a such thing as working towards achieving too much? If so, then I’ll be an overachiever.

On the way home, I was thinking that it’s not such a bad thing, but she said it as if it was bad. I won’t lie, it kind of stunned my confidence for a moment.

Then, I began to think:

“If I’m an overachiever, I must be doing something right.”

“If I’m an overachiever, I’m doing better than I thought.”

“If I’m an overachiever, then this is a proud moment!”

I think it bothered me because my friends are usually very supportive and encouraging. We joke with each other, but never on a ‘character’ level.

Maybe she was jealous. Maybe something was bothering her and she took it out on me. Maybe she’s not achieving what she wants and is reflecting that feeling onto me.

The great thing about the situation is that it may have shook me a bit, but I didn’t let it take over my day. I gave it a thoughtful moment and I moved on with my life.

Actually, I hadn’t thought about it again until now and that was 3 years ago.

I think it says a lot about me and my growth. People used to get under my skin pretty easily, but after a certain age, who gives a hoot anymore?

I wish I always had that type of attitude. In the past, a comment like that would have me all sad and apologetic for something she said to me, because I used to care what people thought of me.

It doesn’t bother me anymore. As a friend, I’m concerned as to why she took that shot at me, but I simply let it go.

Life becomes so much easier when you let little comments like that roll off of your back. I’ve learned not to get all in my feelings when it comes to comments like that.

There are so many other things to be concerned about — things that really deserve to be analyzed and thought about. Why give this the time of day and lose my emotions over it, when it doesn’t really mean anything?

Also, it’s meant to throw me off. People like to say the smallest thing to shake your confidence because they know you’ll think about it and lose sleep over it.

Don’t let anyone else’s insecurity become yours. It’s like crabs in a barrel — if they aren’t succeeding, they don’t want to see you succeeding, so they pull you back. Even your friends can’t stand to see you grow sometimes.

You are not here to please them and be what they want you to be. You are here to find your purpose and reach your goal. It doesn’t include people who deter you from your path to success. Although they become a small obstacle, you have to push on.

Use their negativity as fuel or don’t use it at all. Discard it and keep moving forward. Everyone doesn’t have to see or understand your work ethic — they may even laugh when you fail, but they don’t know that failing is learning — failing means you’re >that< much closer to your results.

Be an overachiever. Know that it’s in your best interest to be one. It’s not an insult — it’s a sign you’re coming up.

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